Bonnet over Prayer Cap

Has anyone wondered how to handle wearing one close covering over another? I did before I tried it, and I had to work out a few things. For someone who has always covered, it’s probably second nature.

First, make sure your hair is pulled back under the prayer cap and fastened well. I have to add a couple of clippies just above my bun so the shorter front hair doesn’t work out. Then fasten on your prayer cap with a couple of clippies at the nape, to either side of the bun. I’ve found that with a close bonnet mere straight pins didn’t hold everything in place. Perhaps a lady with thicker hair could use pins, but my hair is too fine.

I add small clippies or bobby pins at the temples int he front, in colour to match the cap. I have white bobby pins and clippies for my white caps, and black for the black caps. They don’t show much unless someone looks for them. These keep the cap from shifting across the crown, or sliding off when you remove the bonnet.

Put the bonnet on by lowering it from the crown, then snug it against the nape, settling the ruffle, if you have one, so that it isn’t caught up underneath. Pull the brim forward until it seems seated properly. This will depend on the cut of the bonnet. Some are cut back so that the brim sits across the hairline like a hairband. Others have deep brims that shade the forehead.

I think it is essential to tie the strings or ribbons. It looks careless to let them dangle, although my cap strings are usually loose. I tie the bow under one ear, and it stays in place better, although I have to retie occasionally.

To remove the bonnet, untie the strongs, put one hand on your prayer cap under the bonnet at the forehead, and gently slide the bonnet back and up. You should be able to do all this without the aid of a mirror, after some practice.

If the bonnet wobbles too much on your head, and flies back in a breeze, it is too big. It should hug your head but not be pinchy-tight.

If you want your daughters to cover and wear a bonnet, start them before they are three. Tie the strings of the cap and the bonnet off to one side rather than under the chin, and they will complain less about it, I find. You will probably have to clippy the cap to what hair they have, but it will be easier to care for their hair if they are covered and the hair is not getting tangled with wind and play. Enccourage them to keep a bonnet on at all times out of the house, and in the summer, it should be a sunbonnet.

8 thoughts on “Bonnet over Prayer Cap

  1. My hair is fine textured and has no body to speak of so here is my routine just for wearing my kapp mind you. LOL! I use a large barrette in my hair and wrap the hair around it to make a bun. Then I take a doubled over hair net and pin it good all around. Then a couple shots of hairspray. Next a little crochet caplet I made pinned good in 3 places. It is large enough to cover the back of my head upon to the top of my head yet not show. I have only been covering for a couple years and it has been a work in progress to both find a covering that worked for me AND a way to somewhat make my hair stay put! I am new to your blog and enjoying it thus far.

    • Thanks for sharing that. I have thought about spray for my wild fine hair, but I can’t tolerate most chemicals and fragrances.

  2. Yes, I must be careful also. I have allergies to many strong smells and I even make my own laundry soap because of the itchy chemicals and expense of laundry soap. You know, sister, I often do without the hairspray if the wind isn’t blowing like mad and it does pretty well. The hairnet and crochet cap hold it pretty good. I have a good laugh in the mornings the way my hair looks. Kinda like I was in the brambles all night! Sorry, here I go rambling! LOl! Be blessed and huggles.

    • I may try the hairnet under the kapp, to see if it keeps the loose ends in a bit better. Hubby will probablylaugh himself silly though, having never seen me with such a creature before.

  3. I’m a Baha’i, so there is no tradition of head covering in my Faith. Why I am so attracted to headcoverings, I don’t know. But I am, and constantly google sites about them, studying them, and wanting to wear one. Visiting these internet sites, I often see discussion about keeping a bun securely in place. Having thin, fine, fly-away hair myself, when I put my hair up, I use one of the plastic clips – just twist hair and clip, and use bobby pins on any loose hairs. It works really well, but I never, ever see mention of using these clips. Is there a reason why people don’t? A covering would cover it, if, for some reason, it is considered not plain. Just respectfully curious.
    Thanks,
    Anne

    • I tried the clips, but I broke them quickly. I don’t know about others. Since I wear my hair in a flat bun, close to my head, pins are the only thing that will work. So it depends on what kind of covering or kapp you wear, too.

      Have you read Quaker Jane’s witness about how shecame to be a Plain Quaker? Youmight find that interesting. I have been a convicted Christian since an early age – about five. Headcovering was a new way for me to express my conviction, but not everyone comes to covering from the same place.

  4. Thank you for your response. Yes, I see now that, if one is wanting a flat bun to wear under a particular prayer kapp, the clips wouldn’t do.
    Thanks also for the reference to Quaker Jane. I am aware of it and visit the site often. Drawn there as I am to head coverings. I can very much identify with Jane’s initial pull toward the kapp.

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