No Hurry?

This is just a short comment, I guess. Ever have the conviction that you just need to wait for something, that waiting is the right thing to do, that all the rushing around and decision making are going to get you nowhere?

All I want to do right now, under great conviction, is wait for God’s work to be done.

It’s really apparent to me that I need to be at home with Nicholas. He still needs a lot of help getting things done, and his vision and balance are still so poor. He sleeps a lot. Some basic chores, such as food prep, are beyond him right now. Yet so many people (including my own little conscience, socially conditioned as it is) say, “Why aren’t you working? Do you expect something for nothing?” And yet I am doing so much. We just need to get through while the government sorts out all the disability pension stuff – and that’s an insurance plan, not a handout. (Please don’t anyone say that again to me or this hardwon, prayed-for self-control is going to CRACK!) I feel like a new mother who has laid aside all her career expectations to care for her child at home. (“Are you just going to waste that degree?”)

It is very difficult for me to just quietly accept all the criticisms I’ve been hearing. I need to get tougher, I suppose. Shrug it off and do what I think is right.

Right now, that’s doing not much of anything active, making the necessary phone calls and not panicking.

And praying.  (I’ve been sleeping better at night, so God must think I don’t need those extra three hours of prayer!)

So please, no more nagging out there. No more, “Get off your (***) and do something!” I am doing something, and I am not required to report what to anyone I know of. If anyone wants to do something to help us, start with prayer.

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12 thoughts on “No Hurry?

  1. Magdalena, I’m sorry you’re being bothered by such heartless people. Don’t they understand you already have a full time job?? Keeping house and caring for you beloved leaves little time for out of house work. You are doing the most important work now, Nicholas needs you. Besides, I’d rather my tax dollars go to help families like yours than some around here that sit on EI for months (voluntarily).

    Stay positive, God will provide answers.

    • Why anyone wants to sit around and collect EI for months when they could be working beats me – it’s such a pittance! Which of course is the purpose…it supposedly motivates the unemployed to get a job. I guess the biggest shame is that our families are so fragmented that we can’t rely on each other, as we live at many distant locations. I really would like to gather the kids together to some degree. We need each other!

      Thanks for your love and support! I’m praying for you, too.

  2. I’m shocked that anyone who reads your blog would even suggest that you might be lazy. I work full time, attend seminary, and have a husband – and you humble me daily with your work ethic.

    • Oh, Amber, when did you get married? Many blessings on you and your new husband! I am thrilled for you! Nicholas sends his greetings and blessings, too. And thank you for your encouragement. Christians must share their challenges and hopes so we can help each other in prayer and kindness.

      • Matthew and I married August 28th. We are so excited! We have a loving church to help us grow and our seminary to nurture us. I think we are in an excellent place to start off a marriage.

  3. Just ignore those people. They are so deluded by the ungodly idea that a woman is only worth her paycheck. Our place, out of love for God and our family and NOT because of oppression, is in the home. You’re doing the right thing!

    • Some are easy to ignore; others need some firm answer. It’s not that I don’t respect their right to speak, but it is done without love. When I went to university I was not married; I married later and found my heart was in caring for my family and neighbours. That is not incompatible with ministry; it is a ministry in itself. I am not oppressed in any way. This was my choice, not something forced on me. I chose it for its Biblical rightness and in obedience to God.

  4. P.S. I’m willing to bet that the same people that are on your case about “getting a handout” are many of the same exact people that agree with Obama’s health care plan and other tax-money funded “social justice” programs that give plenty of hand-outs to **irresponsible slackers** with over-inflated senses of entitlement. A tax-payer expense! As in, these slackers belive “The government (in other words THE TAX PAYERS) owe me everything!” and so many deluded folk agree with them!

    Only to turn around and nip at your heels.

    How many would make these same complaints if you were a single mom raising six kids by six different daddies while out in the clubs nearly every night boozing it up and sleeping around?

    Or if you were an illegal alien working “under the table” and not paying any taxes but showing up in the emergency room looking for free health care?

    Or if you were an alchoholic/drug addict given the excuse that your sinful behavior is a “disease” and thus they get a check from the government + help with housing…?

    They’d probably cheer you on! Tell you that you deserve these hand-outs! That you are a poor, oppressed victim with “rights” !!

    Don’t listen to people. They are so deluded.

    • I don’t want to stereotype, and I’m sure that’s not what you mean…but yeah! Those living a totally secular lifestyle often get enabled in bad habits and repeated bad choices. Nicholas paid into the pension plan at the maximum rate for many years. And it wasn’t a “lifestyle” issue that caused the stroke, but an undetected birth defect. We need to draw on that insurance now so that we can get established in a self-sufficient life, hopefully raising food for ourselves and others. In Anabaptist groups, the church expects to do this for members who have been ill or injured, but most mainline churches are only prepared for the emergency handout. This is not the way of the apostolic church, not the example of Jesus and his disciples.

  5. Magdelaina,

    I will pray that you are given patience to endure the drawn out beaurocratic process re Nicholas’s disability pension; to anybody out there who is emotionless and heartless enough to criticize this sort of assistance, and those of us who receive it (I have a significant vision impairment of the guide dog using, Braille reading variety and – understand just how vital such assistance is!!) such thoughts may evaporate when one is oneself faced with the hardship of significant disability or catastrophic ilness.

    Magdelaina, I will also pray that you have strength to cope with such heartless barbs; we have an Australian term for such critics, but it is not so polite for this type of blog 🙂 🙂 I think there’s a very good reason a certain man’s ‘three friends’ were documented in a little OT book; Readers, FROM ANOTHER READER WITH A DISABILITY, DON’T BE ONE OF THOSE THREE!!!

    Modern materialistic, individualistic society sees persons with disabilities as burdens and ecconomic liabilities. Magdelaina, you and I know this could not be further from the truth. if Nicholas still has vision loss issues post CVA, see http://www.cnib.org for assistance. Most people assume this sort of agency only helps ‘blind people’ well, 97% of ‘blind people have some residual sight but not enough to read, get about, do daily activities etc the way a fully sighted person does. Give them a call; you’ll be pleasantly surprised. additionally DOCTORS AND SPECIALISTS ARE DISGRACEFULLY LAX AT REFERING THEIR PATIENTS ONTO THESE ORGANISATIONS!!!!! a shameful situation in and of itself.

    For Christian support:
    http://www.torchtrust.org
    and
    http://www.braillebibles.org
    they provide material in large print and audio (as well as Braille)
    for PC support
    http://www.humanware.com
    http://www.serotek.com
    http://www.freedomscientific.com
    these groups provide low vision as well as no vision systems for reading writing and computer use.
    CNIB should either be able to provide assistance for Nicholas to learn to get about and relearn daily living skills such as kitchen, local travel even learning how to walk safely with low vision. also, if his balance is out, many people who lose significant vision experience balance issues as it is closely linked to eyesight; trust me; I’ve got rotten balance myself. it may not just be a neurological issue in his case.
    If you think ‘no, they won’t be for us’, just try; I guarantee you’ll be surprised. if you both need things for the house; gadget, new lighting, high contrast adaptation, high tech reading and PC access, let us know here and we can at least pray for a way forward.

    So, naysayers, you might better appreciate the situation of somebody struggling to recover from a serious acute disorder that is no laughing matter. either support or don’t pick on the vulnerable as merely an easy target!! or I’ll be a lot less diplomatic.

    Magdelaina,
    I will continue to uphold you both in prayer. Wish I could be there to help practically, on the ground, help show new ways of doing, and just be a sounding board for you to bounce frustrations and ideas off of.

    blessings,

    Sarah,
    Australia.

    • Sarah, this comment disappeared into spam and I just found it. Sorry about that! I really want to thank you for your prayers and support. I look forward to checking out some of these sites.

  6. Magdelaina,

    I use SA To go, from http://www.serotek.com it is in many ways far better than the products sold by the big guns who charge three times the cost!! (though it is overtly prejudiced against in my opinion by some elements of the VI services sector).

    May God keep blessing you both with healing, patience and what you need to advance for His glory.

    Blessings,

    Sarah,
    Sydney,
    Australia.

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