I do not think I will be leaving my Plain life. I am at home in Plain. I am comfortable Plain. My husband, house and way of life are Plain. There are moments of dissatisfaction. I wondered last night if I would ever consider a dishwasher, for instance. But since I had the supper dishes washed in less than ten minutes, I think I answered my own question.
But people I have known over the last three or four years as Plain have been leaving the life. Some attend traditionally Plain churches, but are shifting to a faith community where Plain is less accepted or known. They are timid of taking their Plain selves there. Sometimes the shift is because they are disenchanted with Plain.
I feel sorry for them, and sometimes a bit frustrated, especially when they sought deep advisement about being Plain. But apparently it was not a leading for many, just a notion. A reverse vanity, even a real vanity – Plain but vain.
I was surprised when one young woman dedicated to her Anabaptist way of life changed churches, dropped her prayer kapp and full aprons, and started dressing in modest but fashionable outfits, “covering” with nothing more than a folded scarf or a hairband. She started wearing make-up. She painted her walls bold colors and bought room accessories. She let all of us know about it. In effect, she left behind what her ancestors had struggled to keep. I sadly relinquished her friendship. She was too vain to be Plain. She courted having hundreds of friends and acquaintances through writing and publicizing her new-found fashionable Christian life.
As I said, I cannot imagine giving up Plain. Maybe it’s because I am so aware of how fragile life is. I want to live close to its roots. A life stripped down to essentials, a life lived under an open sky, a life full of challenge and opportunity to know God, not just know about God. I don’t think that can be found in an elegant house, with elegant friends, pre-occupied with career and the frivolities of modern distractions. It’s a way of being at sea while living ashore. I love that about life at sea. It is basic. It is all sky and water and distant land to be sought. It is birds overhead, fish flying from wave crest to wave crest, whales and seals. It is the wind for a tutor, and the sea itself as a home.
One cannot take anything extra to sea. There is no room for superfluous baggage. Before the voyage, one has to plan minutely what to take. There is no shopping mall, no easy way to refuel, restock, take on fresh water. There must be enough, and what is packed aboard must be of use. Potatoes and canned food, certainly. Repair kits for clothing and sails, medical equipment and supplies. Warm and useful clothing. Charts, sextant, radio, GPS, books of nautical and natural knowledge. Bedding, soap, dishes, pots and pans. The barest of basics, and if there is extra space left, a bit more of those basics. (I once sailed with someone who had insisted on bringing her glass coffee maker. Everytime we hit a patch of rough sea, the first thought was to go stow the coffee maker in someone’s berth. A Chemex coffee maker does not make a good bunkmate.)
And that is Plain life to me. It is carrying just what one needs for the journey. To give up on it from insecurity, vanity, or the desire to please someone else, is the same as swallowing the anchor. It means giving up the life lived as to drink it down to the lees. It is to accept the cosseting and spoiling that numbs our souls.
I worked in the marine industry for a couple of decades. I lived on the waterfront, worked on the waterfront, and traveled across the water itself almost daily. I knew many sailors who lived aboard. Some had made the great sacrifice and divested of the extraneous, the merely pleasing. They sailed. They traveled. They called from far distant ports in other countries, on other continents. And others had not divested enough. Their decks and home-wharves were cluttered with effluvia – the extra bicycle that needed a new tire, the lockers of old clothes and mouldering books, the hoses and lines and chains that never found a home. They crammed their small living spaces with shirts, jeans, running shoes, notebooks, mementoes, odd china, cookware, cookbooks, torn sails, artwork, broken computers. All of it was to be used – someday. But in the meantime, they were held back. It is impossible to really sail with loose goods on deck or below. It is dangerous. It is frustrating. One might motor on a calm day from harbour to harbour, but it is not possible to successfully set sail and heel the boat. Some vessels end up so overcrowded with the retained flotsam and jetsam of the owners’ lives that they would simply capsize.
Plain is the sailors’ life. It is the life that can travel to new spiritual ports of call. The early Quakers and Anabaptists knew this. They kept their possessions to a minimum. They might have to up anchor and away in t he night. They at least knew, deep in their bones, that any of us can be called away on a moment’s notice, leaving behind everything earthly. They did not want their souls weighed with the baggage of regret for what was lost.
From dust we came, to dust we shall return. Anything that is traveling with us is merely dust, no more, in even a few short years, anything more than its compounded elements.
So the mirror – liar, that it is, is our enemy. It tells us what we think we are. It is merely an image, not the woman or the man. Avoid mirrors. They will provoke discontent, insecurity and vanity. They will make a Christian envious, because the image is not that of what the mind wants to be true. The mirror can be left behind on the long voyage. How the sailor feels in the face of the wind, what the muscles of the body say, how warm and comfortable the skin is in sun and breeze and water is the real living being. The mind at rest and the soul that can answer its Maker without hesitation are the true image.

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2012, 01, 23 at 12:07 am
plainlydebbi
Great post I enjoy all your post. Is giving me food for thought. How did you become plain?
2012, 01, 23 at 12:16 am
Ar Sew N' Sew
A very thoughtful post dear friend. I feel almost guilty having a dishwasher and sad about not being able to dig around in the dirt anymore but deep in my heart I know that because of mine and Jack’s health it is for the best. I will tell you what does feel good though. The fact that we gave away and threw away so much that we only needed a 17 foot truck to move instead of a 26 footer packed tight. Very liberating! And I never have been one for fancy parties and climbing the social ladder. I just want to live simply and quietly, encouraging people and focusing on what matters.
2012, 01, 23 at 1:22 am
Debbie
Very well said! One of my favorite books is “A Very Small Farm” by William Paul Winchester. He is a bee keeper and lives on his small acreage in Oklahoma. He also compared his life to one who has to prepare for a journey on a ship and to be fully outfitted and prepared for the journey.
Thank you for reminding us of what is truly important and the rest diverts us from our purpose in God.
2012, 01, 23 at 1:57 am
sophie pie
Wonderfully, graciously written, and full of wisdom for the journey. As always.
2012, 01, 23 at 2:12 am
maria
Dear Magdalena…To strip our lives to the bare minimum is not easy when the world continues to push for everyone to spend, to have and to hoard.
Deep in my heart, I am plain, but alas, making a statement through my way of life is proving a difficult task. I am taking steps to be the woman I am inside to finally come out. Slowly it is happening.
I have enjoyed this post Magdalena, because it has brought to light how we do become trapped by the ways of the world.
m.
2012, 01, 23 at 1:44 pm
magdalenaperks
Maria, all you can do is the best you can today. I have a faithful and supportive husband and we were called to this way of life. Not everyone understands, as you will see by the other comments! I hold you in prayer.
2012, 01, 23 at 6:48 am
Amy Edge
Posted for a friend: “Please don’t judge your friend too harshly. I too gave up being Plain, because to be associated with a group of people that do not know the way to Christ is not being a good witness. It isn’t enough to be Plain because my ancestors were. Being Plain is a cultural statement for many, and not a religious one. In the Plain community there is too much pride in being Plain and not in being a true follower of Christ. Tradition and Kapps do not get you to heaven. Jesus said “I am the way the truth and the life, no man comes unto the Father except through me.” He didn’t say we come to him only by wearing a kapp.”
2012, 01, 23 at 1:42 pm
magdalenaperks
Evangelical faith is not the only way to God. I believe keeping a Plain life is a discipline, much like monasticism. As an Anglican, I am not a Calvinist, and neither are Anabaptists. Traditionally, Calvinists are considered heretics in these faith traditions. I am sorry to see the mdoern forms of Calvinism eroding the stalwart orthodoxy of Anabaptism. I’m sorry your friend rejected a good tradition of faith. The old ways are still good ways.
2012, 01, 23 at 8:21 am
Leslie
“I sadly relinquished her friendship. She was too vain to be plain.”?
Whatever happened to judge not that ye be not judged?
Does being plain mean we can only be friends with people who think exactly as we do?
2012, 01, 23 at 1:40 pm
magdalenaperks
If you read that closely, I think you would see that the issue wasn’t that she left being Plain, but that she had made a false god of her vanity. I have many, many friends who are not Plain, but it became apaprent to me that she was my friend only as long as our lifestyles coincided. She left me, not the other way around. She dropped out of my life first, and I was surprised to see she hadn’t left my facebook friends list, as I never heard from her anymore. I had been useful to her only as long as she was Plain. I am not judging her as to condemn her, but as a priest I can see the sin she carried along. I’m sorry about it. She is a likeable and bright person, but she cut people out of her life rather than the other way around.
2012, 01, 23 at 3:50 pm
Ember
This is such an interesting post, and I do both admire and celebrate your choices and your perseverance in following them, but I feel there may be more to the choices of others than you are suggesting here. I dressed Plain for a while, but found myself drawn in the end to the kind of practical simplicity you describe so evocatively here, that in my personal experience Plain dress did not provide. The layers of clothing, the ironing, the bulkiness of the outfits when packed away for travelling, and the over-scrupulous mindset I found it engendered in me, in the end started to feel a bit obsessional – they became impedimenta. But I must emphasise that I am saying this was so *for me* – for you it seems to work beautifully and express your heart’s calling.
Where I question your evaluation is that you seem to feel those who have not persevered along the Plain path have in some sense fallen short. Each of us is unique, sometimes we travel together for a while, sometimes our ways part. We do well to respect, and find enrichment in, those who walk a different track and those who change their minds. It would not be laudable for a woman to stick to a path that no longer felt authentic to her for fear of the scorn of more tenacious souls; it is sensible and honest to admit it when/if it doesn’t work out.
2012, 01, 23 at 5:32 pm
magdalenaperks
The sin of vanity was evident to me and others. This is what I am critiquing, not that she chose some other path than Plain. As I say, for some Plain is a notion only.
2012, 01, 24 at 12:25 am
Leslie
Yes, I did misunderstand who was leaving whose friendship.
I understand people dressing plain in a plain community, when it is the way you are brought up then of course you follow suit yourself, whether you have a spiritual conviction or whether you simply want to fit in with your culture..
I am curious about the number of people who take up various forms of plain dress who are not part of a plain-dressing culture. I have come across people dressing plain of many religions and of no religion. There seems to be something in our modern life that feels overwhelming or smothering to a lot of people, and they react by decluttering, paring their belongings down to the bone, and often by coming up with some sort of simple, modest, uniform way of dressing.
I’ve also known some who dressed plainly for awhile, found it distracting or burdensome or a source of conflict with family members and set the discipline aside, but later returned to it.
It is enough to make me wonder what God is up to. I don’t recall ever meeting a voluntary plain dressing person before the last five years or so.
2012, 01, 24 at 4:52 am
joanie
Hi Magdalena,
As you say, you have support from your husband. I have met many women over the past decade or so who thought they were called to the plain path but their husband’s were not supportive or in agreement. Many were encouraged to by degrees get their husband used to seeing them plain and there were testimonies of how these men came to change their minds. Yet still some left after a bad experience in a plain church or because they really were not seeking it for the reasons they thought they were. There were stories of those men who then were upset by the fact their wives wanted to change. I personally feel that if the husband is truly not for it the wife ought to let it go rather than immerse herself in groups with people who do it. That is if the husband is really against it – if he is not opposed to her experimenting, that is different.
And if one has the support it can still be a hard walk for those with strong willed famiy members around to protest or play on their weak points. It can be a hard walk for many reasons. The thing that has tested me was what a few women whom I think highly of teach – the opposite pretty much of what you have said in your post. The idea that we should make our homes and selves beautiful and modest in our serving others and without going near the edge of our means. I found myself bothered by the two groups of women I respected and pondered these immensely different views of how we should live. This is why I love reading your posts. I am one who has to ponder everything.
Blessings to you!
Joanie
2012, 01, 25 at 2:12 am
Sarah Elliott
Magdalena,
A profound and thought provoking post. Thank you for sharing. I know the liberation of de-cluttering, of attempting to live more simply, of finding gentler, healthier alternatives in faith/life (they are one and the same) to the uber-consumerism that has worked its way into every corner of our days in the West. There are occasions when I want to cry ‘hang it all!!’ and embark upon ‘monastic Plain’, but, it is not the season yet (so Plainesque it is, even with its attendant clumsiness at times).
I know what it is to watch those around me ‘on line’ depart the covered path – for many a reason – and for them I feel an ache in my heart, wishing they could have made it work, that they could have found innovative ways to do so, and praying that they’ll have a heart to be led to it again; no, it does not save us, That’s Christ’s work, but there is something inherrently valuable in faith expressed physically, in the ‘every day’ rather than being simply reduced to a ‘secret affair undertaken by consenting adults in the privacy of our own homes (and in the pews on Sunday)…We, as a people, in the broadest sense of the word, have eschewed a faith lived physically, in action and behaviour, as well as word. this is a tragedy, in my thinking. Evangelicalism/Calvinism has shunned the role of the sacramental action and in doing so has given away without cause a portion of its treasure (sadly, it has infected Sydney Anglicanism, to my own pain and discomfort – it is not the Anglicanism I grew up with as a child before sojourning with SDA’ism for several decades). I remember a comment made by an Anglican priest here over thirty years ago now (in terms of clericals, but it has broader application, I believe) ‘Never be ashamed of the King’s uniform’. (my own walk has taken a direction that would horrify many protestants even moreso than my former time with SDA’ism but this is for another post at another time, for I wish to grieve you not, but I sit beneath the cedar tree now, having glimpsed Christ ‘across the euphrates’ in Eastern Rite Christianity – they don’t mind a nearly Plain Westerner in their fold, and I am not alone demographically, I have learnt).
On saying all of this, though, Thoughts of the ‘Quaker Stop’ also come to mind, most eloquently expressed over at http://www.quakerjane.com . Personally, I believe as a society, the 20th century and now into the 21st, has led to what I term ‘fatal straying’ right across the denominational spectrum in mattters that the Bible is very clear on (cursory study of the Greek eliminates many ambiguities that exist in the translation to English). Along with the 20th century’s benefits, we as the universal ‘body of Christ’ have swallowed its manifold harms also. I can’t help but think of Matt 23: 23-24 re the overall state of things; yes, we ARE called to corporal and spiritual works of mercy, but also to not neglect ‘the little things’ (of which many may consider covering as such). We as Christians need to be doing both, in a way that utterly shatters expectations and allows the Kingdom of God to blaze through into this world You, and folk like Quaker Jane (and others), shine a light upon what can be a fraught trail for many.
Blessings,
Sarah,
Australia.
2012, 01, 25 at 5:39 am
e
I was plain for about 10 years, by which I mean to include the entire appearance and way of dressing/grooming. I still live plain in the rest of my lifestyle, but I have left the plain appearance – without really understanding why.
I have not formulated and rationalised the whole story of why I now dress in plain modern (including blue jeans and light makeup). I was not unhappy dressing plain. Since leaving it, I have not adopted judgements against it. I too have seen the people who seem to take it on as only another fashion of clothes or lifestyle. I have seen the people who leave it because especially without a community they found it painful and difficult.
Nearly 100% of people who meet me still call me Amish and make assumptions that I must have been raised Amish – from the remaining plain lifestyle, and I suppose the remaining plain “spirit” or heart and conduct. I think I have become more modern, very extreme minimalist, when the plain Christian tradition is not exactly that.
2012, 01, 26 at 12:35 pm
Jane Smith
Dear Magdalena
Your comments on the mirror being, in effect, one of the enemies’ weapons are simply spot-on. If I was a priest/pastor, I would make a point of including them in my next sermon.
Another weapon, of course, is the mirror’s “companion”, the camera.
What else can I say? Only: “keep up the good work”.
Jane (Pretoria, South Africa)
2012, 02, 04 at 9:14 pm
Erik
Very nice post Magdalena. I always enjoy your take on things.
Erik